It's been a while...like a long while. So brief update before I move along into what I want to discuss. Alden is back in school now. He is kicking ass and taking names in 3rd grade (thankfully not literally 'kicking ass' so far this year). He had a super-huge, ridiculously awesome Christmas and his birthday is right around the corner. So basically we need a bigger house to hold all his new stuff and all his upcoming stuff. Thankfully we are actually talking about looking for a new house within the next year!
Today I want to talk about the holidays and something that grates on my nerves. I hate when people act like I'm some sort of patron saint for taking care of my child because he's got autism. I am just doing what every other parent does. I am doing my best. I am struggling. I am hoping. His autism doesn't change things. I'd raise any other kid in the same exact way as I am raising him. I don't think of him as different because he is MY normal. Oh, & just because he doesn't talk much doesn't mean he doesn't hear everything you are saying. You making a big deal over my not being some Mommy Dearest isn't going unnoticed. I think the main reason it bothers me is because I have never heard anyone say things like that to the parent of a non-special needs child.
I am not a saint, I am not a miracle worker. I do what I can to give my son the best life possible. He makes me laugh, cry, and tear out my hair, just like every other child. Stop making it a big deal. It isn't a big deal. I love him and I'm doing my best to take care of him. That's it.
HE is the one doing all the hard work. Why don't you praise him instead? Like I said, he DOES hear you.
Today I want to talk about the holidays and something that grates on my nerves. I hate when people act like I'm some sort of patron saint for taking care of my child because he's got autism. I am just doing what every other parent does. I am doing my best. I am struggling. I am hoping. His autism doesn't change things. I'd raise any other kid in the same exact way as I am raising him. I don't think of him as different because he is MY normal. Oh, & just because he doesn't talk much doesn't mean he doesn't hear everything you are saying. You making a big deal over my not being some Mommy Dearest isn't going unnoticed. I think the main reason it bothers me is because I have never heard anyone say things like that to the parent of a non-special needs child.
I am not a saint, I am not a miracle worker. I do what I can to give my son the best life possible. He makes me laugh, cry, and tear out my hair, just like every other child. Stop making it a big deal. It isn't a big deal. I love him and I'm doing my best to take care of him. That's it.
HE is the one doing all the hard work. Why don't you praise him instead? Like I said, he DOES hear you.
Yes!!! It also bothers me when people act like Gabe and Joey can't hear them. During a family get together someone asked me if Joey liked his gifts. I was like... Why don't you ask him... He talks. Or people will say they don't know how I "do it" it must be soo hard. When it's really not. 4 is a hand full but I don't treat Gabe and Joey different. What I love most about them is they believe they are normal and everyone else has the problem lol
ReplyDeleteSometimes I think they are right about the last part! It drives me crazy, I know people have good intentions but it doesn't make it okay.
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